Subconscious Mind - Our Own Karmic Power

Do you recall any instance in your life when you got up in the morning and suddenly got a flash of hope by way of some specific clue/ idea/ method/ answer or direction that helped you solve some puzzle and/ or address the issue which had been bothering you during last few days and despite all your sincere efforts you struggled and failed to find the solution. 

Some would see this as a one-off incident, a kind of divine intervention or just plain luck. No arguments to their understanding but at the same time please note the fact that these experiences are not one time affair, it can happen several time in the life of a person. The frequency of such events though varies with individual and has a linkage to persons's upbringing, ongoing circumstances, psychological make-up, acquaintance, physical and mental states etc.

The Medical experts and Psychologists clearly find a rationale behind these seemingly irrational events. There is something in our body which works nonstop 24 hr to process the information, form opinion, views, analyse challenges even during our sleep. This special accomplice is called the Subconscious Mind, a divine power, which is a very powerful tool each human being possess. It is also kind of hard drive which has been saving all kind of information it has been exposed to, all through these years, beginning from your birth. I read somewhere that the data held in our subconscious mind corresponds to several terabytes or is equivalent to many Britannica.   

It  is difficult to define a subconscious mind but all living beings are bestowed with this unique power which works round the clock and process the feeds our conscious mind pushes without being conscious about or making any special efforts. It is very important that we feed the right ammunition to our subconscious mind as ultimately it will come back for us only, good or bad - right or wrong. 

One theory which works perfectly to utilize the power of subconscious mind is repeat  or practice what you really wish. Once your subconscious mind registers the command then it will ensure all the right efforts from your conscious mind.... Interesting.....

Request readers to read some seminal works on subject, few suggestions from my side:

- The Power of Subconscious Mind by Dr Joseph Murphy

- The Genie Within: Your Subconscious Mind--How It Works and How to Use It by Harry W. Carpenter

Have A Happy Peaceful Life...

Life's Principles - Our Own Internal Guides

Hi Friends

We all have our own beliefs and values which have cemented into our thought process like a binding glue. Most of the time these form the basis of our decision and judgments. In fact, the way we respond, act, or react to life's various situations is influenced by the same thought process. These guiding lights are normally considered the Principles one follows in life.

I am sure you all possess some specific values and beliefs which guide your decisions, actions, and responses.  Some of you may not identify or articulate your own principles but deep down in your heart, you do have your internal guides. 

I am deeply influenced and inspired by one particular thought which was a part of a very famous Bollywood song written by the legendary Gulzaar Saheb and soulfully composed by the Great Rajesh Roshan. 

“थोड़ा है थोड़े की ज़रूरत है,
ज़िंदगी फिर भी यहाँ ख़ूबसूरत है!”

(The song is from the cult Bollywood movie “खट्टा मीठा” (released in 1977), directed by the great Basu Chatterjee starring the stalwarts like Ashok Kumar, Rakesh Roshan, Bindiya Goswami, David, Kamini Kaushal, and Deven Verma.)

For me these two lines are not mere poetry but define the philosophy and outlook of life, I truly believe in. Over the years this has become the guiding principle of my life. It has always helped me in my most challenging times. This also corresponds to one very noble principle of life which most of the holy books propagate-

"Appreciate everything you already have in life"

I strongly believe that the learning and the guidance contained in the message can be a great recipe for a happy life.
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थोड़ा है थोड़े की ज़रूरत है,

ज़िंदगी फिर भी यहाँ ख़ूबसूरत है!

ऐ दोस्त ज़रा ग़ौर कर, फ़क़ीर हो या हो दौलतमंद,

होता तो सिफ़र से ही शुरू यहाँ सबका सफ़र!

हसरतें तो हमारी ही पैदा की गयी निकम्मी औलादें हैं,

पूरी हो नहीं पाती ताउम्र, बन जाती नासूर ज़िंदगी भर!

जो भी मिला या पाया, वो मेरा है मेरा था अधिकार,

जो मिला नहीं कभी मुझे कहाँ थी मुझे उसकी दरकार!

अभावों में हंसकर जीना होता है एक खूबसूरत मिज़ाज और फन,

बड़ जाती है हर पल की क़ीमत, हो जाती है हर ख़ुशी अनमोल!

यह फ़लसफ़ा लगता तो है कुछ अजीब मगर,

लगा देता है पार जीवन नैय्या को वेकुंठ के दर!

थोड़ा है थोड़े की ज़रूरत है,

ज़िंदगी फिर भी यहाँ ख़ूबसूरत है!

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Let us discover our own principles of Life. 

Have A Happy Peaceful Life..

Love & Respect Your Child 'As Is'

Dear friends

Sometimes we get Real Inspiring and True-to-Core heart warming, and enlightening messages which touch our soul...sharing one such beautiful message.....

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Father of an average child

Yes, you read it right. I am the father of an average child. By average, I simply mean my child is the average learner, average in scoring marks, average in sports and in extra curricular activities. What's special about him then? NOTHING as per society and school norms.

I often get asked, .... Your son must be good in math and studies in general... I simply say no, he is not. He is average. Am I ashamed to say this? No.. Should I be lying that he is the best in something which he is not, in front of others? Definitely no.

My son is that average child who people fail to notice either for not being at the top or being at the bottom. People fail to notice his sweet smile ,funny talks, tight hugs, friendly personality, kind behavior, mild manners, helpful nature because he is JUST an average child.

The school, society celebrates children who are top scorers or good in sports and extracurricular,which rightfully they should.

Amidst all this, my average child who is a spectator and cheers his friends with full heart goes unnoticed. His love for sports,( even when he knows he is not going to be selected for school team), his love for music(even though he knows he is not going to be selected for school choir) never diminishes. He does all this to enjoy it rather to compete.

Am I a father who is not strict with him for not scoring at the top. Yes, I am strict to an extent and have lost my cool many times in the past. His words pierced through me when my 7 year old asked, "dad, do you not respect me"?

How many of us thought we should respect children? We adults demand our respect each and every moment of our life. Why not a child?

Among children preparing for IIT, MBBS even at a tender age of 10 years. My average child is talking about travelling the world ,meeting new people and eating different cuisines.

*My average child might or might not become a doctor, astronaut ,scientist. But, he is sure to grow up to be a good person ,who will spread cheer*

Last but not least:

*Notice the average child. All that child wants is a smile or a kind word from us adults for just being himself to give him assurance to trust the world*

Each child is different, so is each parenting Style

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Hope You like the message..

Have A Happy Peaceful Life..

Mamma's Boy- The Eternal Joy

Dear Friends

The purest of all relations is a Mother-Child bonding which is unique and special in many ways. Unconditional, Forgiving, Loving, Caring, Unbiased, Immortal are few of the attributes which truly define the God's noblest creation.

Sharing here a short poem which salutes this very very special bond.

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Mamma's Boy- The Eternal Joy

In every family there is a little boy, 

who happens to be the Mamma's Boy.

He is sweet like honey but bundle of lies,

Still brings to family Happiness & Joy.

In every family there is a Mamma's boy.

Mamma enjoys playing with him, like a girl in her teen,

fights like a buddy and hold robes tight with dancing hi.

Why not, He happened to be the Mamma's favorite Toy.

In every family there is a Mamma's boy.

He may not excel in studies and not win any school prize,

Mamma still calls him the best despite all negative noise.

He has his dreams that look hazy to all except his best friend Mom,

Who can always visualize his aspirations like a clear blue sky.

Why not after all like all sons, he is the Mamma's pride.

In every family there is a Mamma's boy.

He may look weak to face the challenges of life,

But stands like rock for mamma like a brave Croy.

He charms with his innocent acts, definitely is not a Cloy,
He becomes a bodyguard to his Sis, not afraid to Stroy.

Why not, like all sons, he is the Mamma's pride.

In every family there is a Mamma's boy.

He is also the best buddy to his Pa, knows the ways to please him high,

He takes care of him like a wise son, gets things done without asking a single time.

The mother-child bond of love is the eternal one,

That always blossoms whether there is rain or sun.

That is why in every family, there is a Mamma's boy,

Who is a the sweetest and a bundle of pure joy.

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Have A Happy Peaceful Life..

Life is a Beautiful Journey, with YOU

Life is a Beautiful Journey, with YOU

We are in Valentine's week and many of you must be planning a special surprise for your love. To make the atmosphere more romantic sharing here one of my poems "Life is a Beautiful Journey, with YOU" which many of you would relate to because she is the one.

I dedicate this small poetic expression to all enterprising, confident and brave women who have brought hope and purpose to our life. 

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With you around, I see the hope of an eternal sound... 
Feel assured and safe,  with some divine power exists all around.

You symbolize a true force who bears all the pain with a lotus smile,  

Always support the loved ones without making any fuss and noise.

You are the One, you are the ONLY ONE  

When fortunes smiled, you always held the compassion on pedestal-high,
And in times of trial and adversity retained the forts with unwavering poise,

You stood like a wall and kept the bad omen away from our lives,
You were the faith who could light our candles on stormy nights.  

You are the One, you are the ONLY ONE 

You Lead life with utmost courage and visible hope, 
You showed a rock resolve in the most difficult times.

When the storm hit our boat,  you changed to a lighthouse,
Guiding safely our wavering ships to the lap of calmer banks.  

You are the One, you are the ONLY ONE 

In your small journey of life in these challenging times,

You wore many hats with ease and visible shine, 
A Caring Partner, A Loving Mother, An Entrepreneur, and Friend,

Healing all along with compassion many children of Lesser God.

You are the One, you are the ONLY ONE

An Authentic Voice on your chosen fields, 
A beautiful hope for many in the virtual space, 

A Social media enthusiast, A passionate Leader selling in Hope

A “Beautiful Commitment’ vitalizing pride with mentoring light. 

You are the one You are the ONLY ONE

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Have A Happy Peaceful Life....

Efficacy, Empathy, Expressive- 3 Es of EFFECTIVE Communication

Efficacy, Empathy, Expressive- 3 Es of EFFECTIVE Communication

I strongly believe that COMMUNICATION plays a critical role in shaping our personal & professional life(S). You would agree that Happiness and Success in life have a direct relationship with the quality of communication we exercise. Infact in the corporate world it is widely accepted that Communication abilities contributes almost 80% to our professional growth. This may look a little exaggerated but the message bears an important learning which we all should deliberate and consciously follow. Before I elaborate on 3 Es, let us see what is the understanding about the word "Communication". 

My understanding remains very basic as shared below:

“Communication is Connecting with Others Effectively”

We often see a tendency to classify a communication in a good or bad brackets. This does not seem appropriate as it is highly subjective and varies with individual perception. Instead It would be better if we assess any communication in light of “Right” or “Not-so-Right” classification. A communication can be good technically but may not be Right in the Context, Situation or Occasion.

The key question is - which factors contribute to make an Effective Communication which is RIGHT also? My recommendation is for three attributes which are the essential recipe for an Effective and Right Communication. These are:

1.    Efficacy

2.    Empathy 

3.    Expressive

- The attribute Efficacy relates to the 100% faith and belief in Self about own capabilities to achieve the intended purpose of communication. It also means that person is fully convinced about the content, intent and objective of communication.

- Empathy is crucial, for two fundamental reasons- 

a. Communication is never a monologue, it is two way free flow exchange of emotions and feelings. Here one must appreciate that words (written or spoken) are not the only expression but all non-verbal behaviour like reaction, impact or effect etc equally represent communication.

b. As the recipients are human who have got the emotions, expectations (heart and mind) and a have a situation, it is important that there is a demonstrated appreciation and acknowledgement of these three elements in our communication.

- Expressive, A Right Communication is always expressive, which is related to selection of right words, thoughts, tone and modulation with the appropriate feelings to create a Connect and make optimum impact

Basically a Right Communication leads to “Striking the Chord” situation, that is what really intended. 

I share here an incident which was shown in the highly acclaimed Netflix Teleseries, The Crown, based on the Life and times of British Monarch, Queen Elizabeth II. The particular episode provides an account of  her infamous visit to JAGUAR car 🚗 MFG company in late 1950s that saw her addressing the employees. It was an inappropriate speech devoid of feelings, considerations and out of time. The visit and her speech attracted a widespread criticism by the British media and also painted a poor image of Queen as a non progressive head of state.  The irony was that the speech was drafted by the Queen's personal staff who were too much influenced and guided by the age old patriarchal traditions of monarchy in those times when the Democratic movement and industrial revolution were taking center stage in many parts of world. 

Your feedback and thoughts are most welcome

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